The New Year

I want to wish everyone a joyous and peaceful New Year. I am thankful that 2010 ended with my family being safe and healthy. As I get older and due to my experience as a bereaved parent, the material things associated with the holiday have no meaning for me. What I value now is the connections that I make with others.

Wishing you all peace.

Dave

The Cab Ride

 First of all I hope you all are having a peaceful and joyous holiday season. I was sent a link to this story by Kent Nerburn called "The Cab Ride." Nerburn's story is a very moving account of the powerful effect of an unsolicited act of kindness .
I have listed the link below.
Take care 




http://www.uuwestport.org/Readings/cab.html

The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting

Hi everyone:
This coming Sunday , The Compassionate Friends will have its worldwide candle lighting event. Candles are lit at 7pm local time. This event unites family and friends around the globe in lighting candles for one hour to honor and remember children who have died at any age from any cause. I would encourage you to find a candle lighting ceremony in your area. They are beautiful, poignant experiences. If you can't get to a ceremony please light a candle in honor of your child or a child who has touched your life. Lighting a candle will . Please help to ensure that the memories of our children will live on.

I wish you all peace.

Thanksgiving Thoughts

First I want to wish everyone a blessed and peaceful Thanksgiving holiday. For the newly bereaved , please understand that the emotions of grief can be more intensified during the holiday season and that this is a normal part of our journeys.  As you progress in your journeys it is my hope that you acquire the support and tools necessary to help you adjust to the physical absence of your loved ones. In the seven plus years since Jeannine's death I have learned to adjust better to the ups and downs of the holidays by reaching out to others and focusing on the present moment. I have also come to believe that Jeannine is not only my beautiful daughter, but my beautiful spiritual partner in my journey as well. That has also helped me adjust better to her physical absence. It is my hope for the newly bereaved, that you will learn to adjust to your new reality and find joy and meaning amidst sadness.

All things connected

I had a very inspirational and spiritual weekend with friends in Long Island last weekend. I have been on a spiritual journey ever since my daughter Jeannine died in 2003. I have undergone a spiritual transformation where I believe that relationships do not end because our loved ones have died and that all things are connected. I have come to recently discover that events that occurred during my early grief journey are connected to events that occur in the present moment for me. I recently discovered the strengths of those connections during my recent trip and that love does reign eternal.

Random Thoughts About Grief

Hi everyone:
This post is excerpted from a book which I co-authored with Linda Findlay of Mourning Discoveries on navigating through grief during the holidays. You can find more information on our book at www.mourningdiscoveries.com or at www.bootsyandangel.com  Here it is:


1. You can't control when grief hits you, no matter how hard you try.
2. Everyone grieves at their own pace and in their own way.
3. Our deceased loved ones are always with us ,and we can still have relationships with them.
4. Time doesn't always heal, but gives us an opportunity to adjust to a new reality.
5. In time, you will have more good days than bad.
6. Do not underestimate the power of a really good support network.
7. Grief may make you feel crazy, but it doesn't mean you are crazy.
8. The grief journey is never linear, but it is always circular.

Ghost Rider- Travels on the Healing Road

During my journey as a bereaved parent, I have read many good and helpful books and articles that have resounded with my grief journey. One that I really liked was :"Ghost Rider: Travels on the Healing Road", by Neil Peart. Peart is best known for his work as the drummer and lyricist in the Canadian rock band, Rush. In the space of 10 months in 1997 and 1998, Peart's daughter, Selena died in a car accident and his common law wife and Selena's mother, Jackie  died of cancer. In an attempt to find meaning and healing , he embarked on a 55,000 mile journey on his motorcycle ,across Canada, many parts of the United States and Mexico. Not only do you get some great insights into his grief journey, but he details the history of the places that he visited. He also used that history as a further backdrop for his turmoil and pain as both a bereaved parent and a young widow. It is truly a great read for anyone who has experienced loss of any kind. 


Please let me know about some books and other resources that have helped you on your own journeys.

Welcome to Bootsy and Angel's Blog

Hi everyone:
My name is Dave Roberts. I am a bereaved parent and the founder of Bootsy and Angel Books, LLC. Our mission is to provide quality support and resources to individuals who have experienced loss of any kind. For more information on our services you can go to www.bootsyandangel.com .

The motivation for Bootsy and Angel Books is my daughter Jeannine Marie Roberts, who died on 3/1/03 at the age of 18 of a rare form of cancer. Bootsy and Angel are Jeannine's two cats. Her death has redefined me, resulting in a complete spiritual transformation . I look at life and death differently now and my daughter has and continues to be a major part of that.

I will post my thoughts on grief, links to some great websites as well as links to some articles that I have written and others in the field have written. I also want this to be a site where people can share their thoughts and memories and stay connected to their loved ones.